What happened to the Joker?

“Trauma when left untreated has the ability to make a villain out of you”.

Fierce Fairytales

The life of Arthur Fleck aka The Joker, best describes this quote above. Raised by a mother who suffered from psychological psychosis, as a child was malnourished, tied up, beaten up severally with blows sustained to the head. Later went on to suffer from Pseudobullbar disorder for which society ridiculed and rejected him, was unable to get proper treatment and meds. He found love then lost it, was mislead by his own mother concerning his medical condition, always saying “he is a happy child” and lied to him about his heritage.

“Trauma left untreated”

We say “none of us is truly born evil. Evil is man-made or is of the devil”. So who made Joker?

If you watched carefully, the life of Arthur Fleck aka Joker, led to another chain of events and helps to shed further light on the life of the one and only Bruce Wayne (BATMAN).

Bruce never started out as a hero. Yeah! I said that! His cap was born out of the traumatic event of JOKER’s new found identity, which led to the demise of Bruce’s identity as he seeks vengeance. Even as he fights the “bad guys”, you see it’s done with so much anger, bitterness and resentment he suffered as a child. Witnessing the murder of his parents and left to deal with the aftermath. TRAUMA!

Not even all the money in the world could save Bruce from the trauma he suffered that night. I know what you thinking, “hey but the took all that and turned into something good, becoming the BATMAN”.

Wrong! You so wrong! Look again!

Every time he put on that cape, went out into the night and saved someone, he was reliving the night of his parents murder. EVERY SINGLE TIME!

You can see the pain, anguish, the “trauma” he suffered in the way he dealt with his victims, brutal and quite severe. Every “bad guy” was the guy who killed his parents. Batman was greatly feared in Gotham, not for his heroism but for his brutality in dealing with these so called bad guys. He showed no mercy. In the movie “Dawn of Justice”, you get to see a more vivid imagery of Batman’s brutality, going as far as to brand his victims for which causes Superman’s distaste for his kind of justice and threatens to shut him down.

Then you also understand Bruce’s love for Clark later when he sacrifices his life to save the planet from DOOMSDAY. Don’t be sentimental. It ain’t all pretty.

This the very trauma Bruce had to deal with for more than half his life. Again you seeing the life of Joker and Batman, you get to understand the hatred between these two. Both men were a symbol of their respective traumas, left untreated. So who made Batman?

Batman’s appraoch to dealing with these so called “criminals” who mind you have also suffered from one trauma or another led to chain of events of deep seated hatred creating a circle of violence.

Batman was in another a villain also. While he saved you from danger, he was finding a way to cope with the “trauma” he suffered as a child. Every time he saved you, he was doing what he wished could have been done for his parents that black night.

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The Evil Queen

Oh dearie me,
did you come here
looking for a damsel in distress?
A queen patiently waiting
for a dashing knight
to save her from herself?

Did you really think
this was going
to end with you
playing the hero by bringing
the kindness out
of the evil queen?

Look again, love,
someone has lied to you
about my hidden virtue.
I have always loved
being the beast.

Fierce Fairy Tales by Nikita

The Power of Authenticity

The most important gift we can give ourselves is the commitment to live our authentic life. To be true to ourselves however, is not an easy task. We must break free from the seductions of society and live life on our own terms, under our own values and aligned with our original dreams. We must tap our hidden selves, explore the deep-seated, unseen hopes, desires, strengths and weaknesses that make us who we are.We have to understand where we have been and know where we are going. Every decision we make, every step we take, must be informed by our commitment to living a life that is true and honest and authentic to ourselves and ourselves alone. And as we proceed, we are certain to experience fortune well beyond our highest imagination. —Excerpts fromThe Secret Letters of the Monk who sold his Ferrari”

DECEPTION AT THE HEART

There is a lie that has crept into the heart of the believer in this age, telling us that we can love the things of the world and the things of God at the same time – Matt 6:24.

I have been a victim of that lie myself. It’s something that has become part of the believer’s lifestyle, e.g music, friends and conversations we engage in.

One minute we’re listening to secular music with poor and harmful lyrical content, the next we are listening to gospel and worship songs like nothing ever happened. Having friends that influence us negatively, ungodly corrupt conversations that dampen our Spirit man – 2 Cor 6:14-16.

We fail to realize that our hearts have become tainted, having dotted spots, no longer pure but black and white, ‘the grey area’. But there is no ‘grey area’ with God. For this is what Rev 3:15-16 talks about, being lukewarm, neither here nor there and this is what God says He rejects.

We go under the guise of ‘we are not perfect’, forgetting that we have been called unto perfection – Matt 5:48. We (the believer) try to seek God and mammon at the same time forgetting that we are to give up one for the other.

It’s a lie that has knowingly and unknowingly crept into the heart of today’s Christian, that we can be in the world and also be in Christ.

🇳🇬 #NigeriaAt58 With A Nationwide Strike

Four Days To Go

4 days to #NigeriaAt58 the nation embarks on a nationwide strike. All public institutions, businesses, shut down. Where are we going to and how are we progressing forward as a nation? Is there any hope for the future?

Workers are demanding a new minimum wage of about N50,000 from the current national minimum wage of N18,000. Talk about growth. What exactly are we celebrating?

NLC

“All public and private institutions, offices, banks, schools, public and private business premises, including filling station, are to remain shut till further notice,”
The Petroleum and Natural Gas Senior Staff Association of Nigeria said it would join the strike as long as its labour centre – the Trade Union Congress – was involved.

That’s to say increase in transportation fare, fuel price increase, goods and services. Meanwhile those are the ones that manage to function despite the strike because to chop, man must work.

ASUU

But the ASUU said it would consult with its leadership and trustees before joining the strike. The ASUU National President, Prof. Biodun Ogunyemi, told one of our correspondents on the telephone on Wednesday that he could not decide without an approval from the ASUU Executives.

But as of today students were stopped in the process of commencing their exams. Students have learnt to mentally add an additional year or two to the required years of study for a course because of #strike that comes in different forms.

JUSUN

The President of JUSUN, Mr Marwan Adamu, said in a statement on Wednesday that “effective from midnight on Wednesday” all courts in the country must remain closed pending a counter instruction from the National secretariat of the Union.

So all persons with legal issues are on hold till further notice.

Fellow Nigerians,

Need I say more? No one is exempted from the blowback of this strike. I fail to see what is we celebrating #NigeriaAt58. We need to take step back, come together, and am not just referring the leaders and respective heads involved, but we as a people, a nation, to think on steps and act on those steps in steering in the nation in a positive direction. This should be a period of reflection, a positive kind of reflection that brings about results not just to complain and be bitter.
Let’s all try to remember this as we clock #NigeriaAt58

God bless you!

RAMIFY

There is a part of me that I think only I can understand. A part of my emotions that are difficult to put into words, one that I fear the reader might not understand or should I say misunderstand. But if do try to pen down my emotions right now it would go like this;

There is a sense of sadness deep on the inside of me. It threatens to engulf me and I strive to keep it at bay. It’s fueled by my current despair, by the battles in front of me.

Why? Because I have no strategy at hand to win it. Because the enemies forces seem overwhelming and I have no way of overcoming. But I think this is the point where am supposed to relax, put my trust in a higher power, One who I know is more than able to come to my rescue. So why yet do I still feel this sense of unease?

There is this heavy weight of guilt on my back.

What is it I have done wrong? I think I know.

I have repented of it. But why then does it still haunt me?

Why do I still fell like it constrains me from moving forward? Like am stuck and can’t move. In truth why do I still feel that God is angry with me? Like He has turned His face away from me? I have repented right?

Despair! I can feel it again, looming in on me. I really don’t want to sink into it again.

But somewhere deep down, on the inside of me I think I know the answer. It’s like I can see it on the inside but I can’t just reach it. Is it because I don’t want to?

No! I don’t think so.

I think my heart is afraid to admit something to itself. And I know what it is. And as soon I do, it would be deprived of what it has latched unto.

In truth, deep down on the inside of me, I think I have lost my way again. Become distracted! Out of touch with my creator. If am honest, my thinking has been polluted with wrong ideologies. My heart, tainted. I keep hearing “in His presence” . I know whose presence. I have been away from it for a while now. I can feel it’s effects and yet I keep trying to deny it. Been feeling myself up with the wrong things, telling myself it’s okay, it doesn’t matter. I can manage the two. It’s not exactly bad and so why not. It’s just good.

Good according to who’s standard?

My inward man knows that my heart has come to develop an appetite for the wrong things. It longs for the wrong things that’s why even when I know the answer to the despair that looms over, I do not try to grab it because it would mean letting go of those appetites. I try to have those appetites and still have the peace of God. That’s why even though I see my deliverance, I still can’t reach no matter how much I want to because I just can’t let go of the other. But I realize now that I must let go if I am to find His peace and experience victory.
Now the question is – ‘Can I?’ Or more like ‘am I willing?’ Willing to pay the sacrifice? I have to make a decision soon. I can feel it more and more now, everyday. The despair! It’s closing in on me. My mortal strength is giving out. I’m at my limit.

What comes next? Snap! Despair! With an overwhelming darkness.

TAKE 💯% RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE.

You have to give up all your excuses. 99% of all failure come from people who have a habit of making excuses.
– George Washington Carrer


It is not the external conditions and circumstances that stops you – it’s you! We stop ourselves! We think limiting thoughts and engage in self defeating behaviours. We defend our self-destructive habits with indefensible logic. We ignore useful feedback, fail to continously educate ourselves and learn new skills, waste time on the trivial aspects of our lives, engage in idle gossip, eat unhealthy food, fail to exercise, spend more money than we make, fail to invest in our future, avoid necessary conflict, fail to tell the truth, don’t ask for what we want, and most of all for THE BELIEVER, we lose our identity, refuse or fail to grow in the knowledge of Christ, failing to recognize our rights and power we have in Him, either through sheer laziness of the mind or desire of the flesh – and then wonder why our lives don’t work.😕🙄


But this by the way is what most people do. They place the blame for everything that’s isn’t the way they want it in outside events and circumstances. They have an excuse for everything.
If you don’t like your outcomes, results, change your responses. Everything you experience today is the result of the choices you have made in the past. If you keep on doing the same thing you’ve always done, you’ll keep on getting what you have always got.
Direction determines your destination. Direction! Not your prayers, your faith, imaginations, positive confessions but your direction.
Insanity – continuing the same behaviour and expecting a different result”.
– Alcoholic Anonymous

LETTING GO. 

Sometimes you let go of people without even noticing. You stop thinking of them everyday. You stop waiting for them to reply you. You stop allowing them to take up so much space in your life, you move on, you go about your day without worrying about them. You stop expecting them to come back with an apology or you to give an apology. You accept that they are no longer a part of your life, that they’ve become part of the crowd in your life, going and coming. You just let them. Simple as that. Sad! Quite sad I must say. But sometimes it’s just unavoidable. And that’s just the bitter truth about it. They were everything to you. You always worried about them, wanted to be with them, talk with them, share your fears, joy, happiness. There were moments. Yes! There were moments. Moments that could still make you smile when thought of. But somewhere along the way it didn’t just go as imagined. You were met with indifference, hostility. So slowly and subconsciously you drew away with your arm stretched out hoping that as you pulled away they would reach out to you but it never happens. 

Why? Because not everything is supposed to become beautiful and long lasting. Sometimes people come into your life to show you what is wrong and right, to show you who you can be, to teach you to love yourself, to make you feel better for a little while, or just to walk with with at night and spill your guts to. Not everyone is going to stay forever. We have to keep on going and thank them for what they given to you. ​


Let go of all pain, hurt and offence. Search for the good they have done in your life and be grateful. Be grateful! And so you can smile whenever you think of them​. Close some doors. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, simply because they no longer lead somewhere.     

Age & Maturity

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Age is said not to determine a person’s maturity but I tend to disagree with that. You see I believe that a person’s age shows their level of experience in life, their rising and their falling, pains and gains, achievements and disappointments. You see as you walk through life you learn different things through these experiences. Some experiences are the turning points in your life and others leave you with scars, never to be forgotten.
   In all these, a person should have a certain level of wisdom,  thoughtfulness and character which we term as maturity because one has learnt through instruction or experience, cause those are the two instructors of life directed by the forces of good and evil, depending on a person’s choice. But experience does have the final say either with pain or gain.
   Now back to the subject for which I began this recapitulation, through all these I believe one should have a certain level of maturity. A ‘teen’ for instance is considered by an ‘adult’  to still be immature because that ‘teen’  has yet to see life from a particular perspective and has no life defining experiences like an ‘adult’. Why? Because the ‘adult’ is thought to have lived longer than the ‘teenager’  and so has seen and experienced more in this Galaxy of life.
  
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But it’s intriguing how the many of these ‘adults’  tend to act as the ‘teenager’ and the ‘teenager’ acts as an ‘adult’. Why is that? I can’t give you all the answers now can I? You got to think for yourself and answer. These are just my thoughts. But you can’t deny that there are ‘adults’ who act maturely. So what happened to them?
What happened to those ‘adults who aren’t mature? And there are teenagers who act as adults, far above their age and perceived wisdom. Why?
   Am sure you all have different answers to these questions. But it begs the question of if “Age and Maturity” truly have an affair.